Sunday, May 1, 2016

Have We Had A Negative Vibe About Someone, or Are We Turning People Off? This Might Be Why.

Tons of very nice people can create negative vibes without intending to do so. Hard to believe, I know, but we might have done these unconscious things ourselves.  Here are some of our actions that might turn people off.

 Dr. Travis Bradberry, co-author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and co-founder of TalentSmart, shares his research with us.

He describes a study (UCLA) of "500 descriptions of people based on their perceived significance to likeability. The top-rated descriptors had nothing to do with being gregarious, intelligent, or attractive...Instead, the top descriptors were sincerity, transparency, and capable of understanding (another person)."

He continues, "TalentSmart research data from more than a million people shows that people who possess these skills aren't just highly likeable; they outperform those who don't by a large margin."

Dr.Travis Bradberry says these habits might be the culprits.
  • Humble-Bragging
  • Being Too Serious
  • Not Asking Enough Questions
  • Emotional Highjacking
  • Whipping Out Your Phone
  • Name-Dropping
  • Gossiping
  • Having a Closed Mind
  • Sharing Too Much, Too Early
  • Sharing Too Much on Social Media
Hmmm...I'm thinking I see some I've done on this list. Sigh!

To read Dr. Bradberry's complete explanation and to see the examples given, just click on the link below.

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