We have read accounts and seen news coverage of the plight of homeless vets. Over the holidays, various malls had collection sites to drop off clothes for women vets and their children who are homeless.
An easy way for us to help the Veterans Behavioral Health Services is to collect coupons for personal care items so that the VA can increase its supply of those items to help these servicemen and women. Wherever we happen to be, we can find coupons in the Sunday newspaper, in magazines, and online. For those of us who are accomplished coupon clippers, more sources than those listed here are coupon goldmines.
Coupons that you can clip for razors, shaving gel, body wash, soap, lens cleaner, shampoo, toothbrushes, toothpaste, wipes, feminine products, deodorant, body lotion, and other personal care items make it easier for the VA to provide for the veterans who have come back to face homelessness.
One address to use when you want to send an envelope of coupons, is the following:
Jamie Zewe, MA, LPC
Assistant Chief, Behavioral Health
Erie VA Medical Center
135 E. 38th Street
Erie, PA 16504
814-860-2039
According to Sarah Gudgeon Public Affairs Specialist/My HealtheVet Coordinator, the following link also provides information: http://www.erie.va.gov/pressreleases/couponingteam.asp
What could be easier for us to do? Let's take a few minutes each month to clip coupons. In a small way, this easy act might help someone who has served our country in dangerous countries abroad and now finds himself or herself homeless back in the US.
Thursday, January 5, 2012
Monday, January 2, 2012
Our Health: New Information on the Benefits of Shopping, Yoga, SuperFoods, and The Occasional Hangover
We've all known that we can add years of good health by staying active, following a good diet, limiting alcohol to a drink a day, and kicking the smoking habit. But every day, new information comes out to help us to enjoy life and to stay healthy. More: The Magazine for Women of Style and Substance gives great insight that can lead to better living.
Saving money can make you happier. Of course! But healthier? What's the latest? Plavix lost its patent protection at the end of 2011. Those of us who include the blood thinner in our 'stay healthy' arsenal will save considerable money now that the generic is available.
Most of us like to shop, but does it help our health? The Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health says, "Absolutely!" According to the study, shopping can actually lower the possibility of untimely death by 23%. Wonderful! Isn't this what we've been saying all along? But why does it help our health? How?
The researchers include the benefits of physical activity, socialization-either with shopping pals or with the salespeople we meet-time away from the house in the fresh air, the psychological lift of fresh veggies in the frig or new stuff to wear to work tomorrow, and to top off the health and happiness fix, the discovery of bargains to stretch our money a little.
At least one of our group suffers from atrial fibrillation-that very serious condition causing irregular heart beats. It's a danger because it might lead to stroke or to heart failure. In the study by Dhanunjaya Lakkireddy, MD, Associate Professor of Medicine, University of Kansas Hospital, Kansas City, a group of a-fib sufferers were able to reduce episodes by 50%. How did they do it? A new med? No.
They were able to reduce their episodes of a-fib dramatically by following a plan that included participation in 45-minute yoga classes 3 times a week for 3 months. According to the researcher, this treatment also avoided side effects of those drugs usually prescribed for the disorder.
Are you living with aching caused by inflammation? Cherries have been noted as a good preventative. More suggests that we give aloe and/or prickly pear juice a try. Since recurring inflammation can lead to even more serious health issues such as heart disease and/or cancer, adding one of the juices listed might reduce the inflammation. And here's an unexpected plus! (One that we don't need, of course, but one that we can pass on to our imbibing friends.)
The prickly pear extract could help a hangover by attacking inflammation induced by alcohol.
And how about this nutrition booster: Sea buckthorn berries. What? Here's another edible that few of us have heard of. It is also known as the havtorn berry. These small berries are packed with Vitamins C and E, omega fatty acids, and beta-carotene. According to Washington, DC, dermatologist Noelle Sherber, these fruits "are powerful neutralizers of free radicals, and including them in your diet will minimize disease-causing inflammation and wrinkle-creating collagen breakdown." A berry that minimizes collagen breakdown? Hmm...now that's a bonus!
Wow! What a lot of information. No wonder I'm grateful to Dawn for steering me to this worthwhile publication. More focuses on those of us over 40. Of course, some of us are under that age, and many of us were 40 a few decades ago, but we can all enjoy the worthwhile info in a journal describing itself as the publication for "Women of Style and Substance".
Saving money can make you happier. Of course! But healthier? What's the latest? Plavix lost its patent protection at the end of 2011. Those of us who include the blood thinner in our 'stay healthy' arsenal will save considerable money now that the generic is available.
Most of us like to shop, but does it help our health? The Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health says, "Absolutely!" According to the study, shopping can actually lower the possibility of untimely death by 23%. Wonderful! Isn't this what we've been saying all along? But why does it help our health? How?
The researchers include the benefits of physical activity, socialization-either with shopping pals or with the salespeople we meet-time away from the house in the fresh air, the psychological lift of fresh veggies in the frig or new stuff to wear to work tomorrow, and to top off the health and happiness fix, the discovery of bargains to stretch our money a little.
At least one of our group suffers from atrial fibrillation-that very serious condition causing irregular heart beats. It's a danger because it might lead to stroke or to heart failure. In the study by Dhanunjaya Lakkireddy, MD, Associate Professor of Medicine, University of Kansas Hospital, Kansas City, a group of a-fib sufferers were able to reduce episodes by 50%. How did they do it? A new med? No.
They were able to reduce their episodes of a-fib dramatically by following a plan that included participation in 45-minute yoga classes 3 times a week for 3 months. According to the researcher, this treatment also avoided side effects of those drugs usually prescribed for the disorder.
Are you living with aching caused by inflammation? Cherries have been noted as a good preventative. More suggests that we give aloe and/or prickly pear juice a try. Since recurring inflammation can lead to even more serious health issues such as heart disease and/or cancer, adding one of the juices listed might reduce the inflammation. And here's an unexpected plus! (One that we don't need, of course, but one that we can pass on to our imbibing friends.)
The prickly pear extract could help a hangover by attacking inflammation induced by alcohol.
And how about this nutrition booster: Sea buckthorn berries. What? Here's another edible that few of us have heard of. It is also known as the havtorn berry. These small berries are packed with Vitamins C and E, omega fatty acids, and beta-carotene. According to Washington, DC, dermatologist Noelle Sherber, these fruits "are powerful neutralizers of free radicals, and including them in your diet will minimize disease-causing inflammation and wrinkle-creating collagen breakdown." A berry that minimizes collagen breakdown? Hmm...now that's a bonus!
Wow! What a lot of information. No wonder I'm grateful to Dawn for steering me to this worthwhile publication. More focuses on those of us over 40. Of course, some of us are under that age, and many of us were 40 a few decades ago, but we can all enjoy the worthwhile info in a journal describing itself as the publication for "Women of Style and Substance".
January: A Time for Reflection and Relaxation
Are you facing the current snowstorm? Have you just come home after fighting the slippery road? Is this the scene from your frosty window? Do you want to just relax and forget about that blizzard?
If not in the snow, are you looking out on sunshine and feeling warm breezes coming through your window? Lucky you!
Wherever you are, you will enjoy fixing a hot cup of tea or coffee or sipping a cold iced tea, sitting back and enjoying "Symphony in White" sent to us by Bob A.
It's a perfect way to wind down after the holiday rush.
Check out this video on YouTube:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZBZi0haRnU&feature=youtube_gdata_player
Created by Michelle Sherliza with music by Ernesto Cortazar
If not in the snow, are you looking out on sunshine and feeling warm breezes coming through your window? Lucky you!
Wherever you are, you will enjoy fixing a hot cup of tea or coffee or sipping a cold iced tea, sitting back and enjoying "Symphony in White" sent to us by Bob A.
It's a perfect way to wind down after the holiday rush.
Check out this video on YouTube:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZBZi0haRnU&feature=youtube_gdata_player
Created by Michelle Sherliza with music by Ernesto Cortazar
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
Want to Get Away? Places to Visit
The fall is a perfect time to reflect on your next travel destination. Here are some places to think about.
Travel Recommendation: SCOTTSDALE, ARIZONA
For those seeking warm sunshine this winter or spring, Cheryl A. recommends, " Scottsdale, AZ. Since it is also my former home for 11 years, I may be partial to this southwest city, however, I can guarantee that there is something in the area for almost every traveler.
If you enjoy warm weather, appreciate the beauty of the desert and like to site see, this may be your place. You can horseback ride, eat and drink well, relax by a resort pool, watch spectacular sunsets over the mountains which surround the Valley of the Sun, eat any meal outdoors most of the year and even visit a casino. Several hundred golf courses and free recreation parks with walking paths, biking trails, exercise stations are part of the attraction. Museums, theatre, symphonic and two stepping music await you. Wear your cowboy boots, hat and jeans or dress up with mink and diamonds depending on which culture you select. If you forget something, then shop until you drop in large malls or small boutiques.
Travel Recommendation: BEND, OREGON
Travel Recommendation: SCOTTSDALE, ARIZONA
For those seeking warm sunshine this winter or spring, Cheryl A. recommends, " Scottsdale, AZ. Since it is also my former home for 11 years, I may be partial to this southwest city, however, I can guarantee that there is something in the area for almost every traveler.
If you enjoy warm weather, appreciate the beauty of the desert and like to site see, this may be your place. You can horseback ride, eat and drink well, relax by a resort pool, watch spectacular sunsets over the mountains which surround the Valley of the Sun, eat any meal outdoors most of the year and even visit a casino. Several hundred golf courses and free recreation parks with walking paths, biking trails, exercise stations are part of the attraction. Museums, theatre, symphonic and two stepping music await you. Wear your cowboy boots, hat and jeans or dress up with mink and diamonds depending on which culture you select. If you forget something, then shop until you drop in large malls or small boutiques.
June through early September can be beyond hot for many (116 degrees is not unusual), however, late September, November and even December are more moderate. If you want to see cactus bloom then March or April is your month. "
Travel Recommendation: BEND, OREGON
"Bend Oregon is an outdoor-lovers retreat! We visited there for the first time this summer and saw beautiful scenery driving up the mountain and down into the town. Locals and visitors alike are hiking, biking, walking, paddle boarding, tubing, canoeing, camping, etc. It is a Mecca for micro breweries, too.
Only drawback is how to get there. We drove up/back from Arizona and it is a long 2 day marathon. Few gas stations along the way and only mom and pop 50 style motels.
If you fly, you can go into Portland and rent a car or fly directly into Redmond Airport via 2
or 3 other stops.
Plan on at least 5-7 days to see it all – Lava Land, Mt. Bachelor, Sun River Resort,
Deschutes River area, boutique shopping, Harley shop.
Winter is snowshoe time or skiing; while summer is floating on the rivers, hiking and shooting.
Great for families or couples.
Travel Recommendation: ALASKA
Pearl recommends, "Alaska, particularly Denali National Park. If you combine
the inland and crurise tour, we found that going north first for the inland part of
the tour before the cruise works best. First of all it is cheaper, secondly you know
people of the cruise ship."
Others who have also made the 'once in a lifetime' trip to Alaska agree. Beautiful scenery, glaciers, eagles' nest, whales, so much to see. Plan now if you want to make the trip next summer.
Travel Recommendation: STAYCATION
For those looking to enjoy this week in Pennsylvania, the scenery is still spectacular. From the Kinzua area of the Allegheny National Forest south through the Pittsburgh area, trees are still showing their fall colors.
In your area, the trees may look bare, but a short drive north, south, east or west produces some surprises. As you round a bend in the road, a beautiful stand of red and yellow-leaved trees appears. Enjoy!
Travel Recommendation: MENTAL GETAWAY
Can't leave the area? We have the perfect way for you to relax. You can tone up, gain strength and flexibility, and also reach that supremely relaxing meditative state. Sign up for a yoga class with Jean F and float away to your very favorite place. Want an endorsement of the powers of yoga? Ask Marty, Julie, or Linda L.
Can't leave the area? We have the perfect way for you to relax. You can tone up, gain strength and flexibility, and also reach that supremely relaxing meditative state. Sign up for a yoga class with Jean F and float away to your very favorite place. Want an endorsement of the powers of yoga? Ask Marty, Julie, or Linda L.
Thanks to Cheryl A. and to Pearl B. for recommending Scottsdale, Arizona, Bend, Oregon, and Alaska. And to Pearl for the great pictures of Alaska. We're grateful to both of you.
Friday, October 7, 2011
Finally! Time to Read: 35 Suggestions For Your Next Reading Experience
We’re all addicted readers so this time we’re listing what we’ve been reading. Fortunately, many of us are willing to take a few minutes to rate and recommend (or not) what we’ve read lately. We're using a simple ranking format of 4 to 1, with 4 as the best of the best.
(4) must read (3) worth the time to read (2) read only if you have no other reading material of any kind (1) don't bother reading at all,
Non Fiction Suggestions with a Rating of 4-Must Read
• The Boy Who Harnessed the Wind by William Kamkwamba-as suggested by Marty J.
• The Garden of Beasts by Erik Larson. (Suggested by Joan H.) Joan writes, “ If you are into the history of the German takeover by Hitler you will love this book. This is the story of a small southern professor who becomes the Ambassador from the US to Germany and his alerts to the US Gov. about what was happening in Germany as Hitler was coming into power. Great read!”
• Helmet For My Pillow: From Parris Island to the Pacific by Robert Lecke. This is an autobiography listed by Bob A. who writes, “ After viewing the HBO miniseries entitled The Pacific, I immediately became interested in the heroes depicted in that production. I seem to have an abiding interest in the Pacific theater probably because I was stationed there twice during my military career.”
• I'm Staying with My Boys: The Heroic Life of Sgt. John Basilone, USMC by Jim Proser-the second of four recommendations on heroes of the Pacific Theater by Bob A.
• Unbroken by Lauren Hillenbrand. This choice was also given by Bob A who describes it as “The true and almost unbelievable biography of Louis Zamperini. The most remarkable and impressionable book I read. It was outstanding. A resounding 4 rating. You are probably aware that Laura Hillenbrand also wrote Seabiscuit, which was a good film as well.”
Nonfiction with Recommendations of 3-Worth the Time to Read
• With The Old Breed by E.B. Sledge(autobiography)--3+ One of Bob A’s picks from the heroes of the miniseries The Pacific
Fiction with a Rating of 4-Must Read
• Before I Go To Sleep by S. J. Watson. Joan H. writes, “This is a good story about a woman who has lost her memory (accident) and her therapst is trying to help her. She is seeking help against her husband's knowledge for good reason. Ends with a good twist.”
• The Confession by John Grisham and suggested by Peggy.
• Cutting for Stone by Abraham Verghese suggested by Linda S.
• The Glass Rainbow by James Lee Burke--4. Another series set in Louisiana and suggested by Bob A.
• The Help by Kathryn Stockett. A suggestion from Linda S and reviewed earlier in the blog on 01/05/10.
• In the Name of Honor by Richard North Patterson. Peggy notes, “This outstanding novel reminds me that I need to go back and see what else I might have missed by R. N. Patterson.”
• My Name is Mary Sutter by Robin Oliviera. This historical novel has been suggested by Marty J.
• Sarah's Key by Tatiania de Rosnay. The only fiction title to be suggested by three of us.-Joan H., Marty J. and Linda S. Joan H. observes, “This story took place in France and the main character was given a project by her magazine co. to write about the French police rounding up the Jews for the Gernman concentration camps. Great story.”
• Saving Cee Cee Honeycutt by Beth Hoffman. This recommendation comes from Linda S.
• A Skeleton in God’s Closet by Paul Maier as listed by Marty J. and described by reviewers as a ‘theological thriller.”
• Still Life by Joy Fielding suggested by Linda S.
Fiction with a 3 rating-Worth the Time to Read
• Back of Beyond by CJ Box--3. Bob A. notes, “I also have enjoyed his Joe Picket series of novels, but its best to read them in sequence. At least that's true for someone as mildly anal retentive as I am.”
• Barefoot by Elin Hilderbrand recommended by Marty J.
• City of Light by Lauren Belfer. Marty also suggested this historical novel.
• A Dance With Dragons by George R. R. Martin-Peggy writes, “This is a very good read, and the fifth in the A Song of Ice and Fire series. Anyone who watched the HBO miniseries, A Game of Thrones, is aware of the first book in the series. Memorable characters are complex individuals; those who manipulate and use brute force to gain power, others who struggle to be honorable and loyal to both family and king, and still others who know that playing the game requires calling to the fore all of the complexities of human beings. Starting with the first book and working up to A Dance With Dragons allows the reader to watch a characters fight, manipulate, reflect on, and regret their parts in the game. Peter Dinklage won the 2011 Emmy for Best Supporting Actor in a Drama Series for his portrayal of the pivotal figure, Tyrion Lannister.
• Eyes of a Child by Richard North Patterson and suggested by Peggy.
• The First Day of the Rest of My Life by Cathy Lamb. Peggy notes, “This novel examines two sisters, their adult professions, and the ways they cope as adults with abuse suffered in childhood. It describes the family’s wrenching recognition of their grandmother’s descent into dementia, and the uncovering of the mysterious background of the grandparents who escaped persecution in France during WW II. The book is a record of the resulting courage, humor, acceptance, and renewal that each of the sisters achieves.
• The Forgotten Garden by Kate Morton. This historical fiction selection comes from Marty J.
• Inner Circle by Brad Meltzer. Peggy notes, “The Culper Spy Ring was organized during the Revolutionary War to provide information to George Washington. Meltzer’s Inner Circle links the original Culper Spy Ring to a contemporary version of the same small group on whom the President depends for vital information. For the reader who enjoys the interweaving of historical information into persent-day mystery, the Inner Circle doesn’t disappoint.”
• Ishmael: An Adventure of the Mind and Spirit by Daniel Quinn. One of Marty’s recommendations, this is the first novel in a trilogy. Ishmael has been described by reviewers as a ‘philosophical novel’.
• The Paris Wife by Paula McLain. Linda S. has suggested this fictional ‘autobiography’ of the second wife of Ernest Hemingway.
• The Postmistress by Sarah Blake has also been recommended by Linda.
• Things Unspoken by Anitra Sheen. Recommended by Peggy, “This novel was published in 1998, but I missed it altogether. On a flight West this summer, a seatmate finished it and gave it to me. I was grateful that she did. The story of a little girl, puzzled by her own family during childhood and growing into confusing adolescence captures the reader’s interest and compassion. As Jorie deals with her family, she struggles to handle the heartbreak she experiences because of a father who by his own admission, loved her best when she was 5. At the same time, she tries to provide some semblance of normalcy for her family. The only problem making this a 3 instead of a 4 is that the last part of the novel seemed to be sketchy and just tacked on by the author in an ‘Oh, I forgot to say what happens to Jorie and her brothers’ moment."
• A Scattered Life by Karen McQuestion. Joan H. writes,” Another good book that touches the heart.”
• Water for Elephants by Sara Gruen as recommended by Marty J.
• Worth Dying For by Lee Child--3+ . Bob A. observes, “Again, another series with Jack Reacher as the protagonist/anti-hero. Of course, I've read the entire series.” Peggy also writes, “The Reacher series has been described as fiction written for a male audience. However, Reacher’s integrity, courage, sensitivity to the weaknesses of others, and the ability to create in other characters to will to be more than they think they can be all appeal to me.. I might not know anything about the speed of a bullet or the force exerted by the swing of a 250-lb., 6 ‘ 5” former Army officer, but I have to admire the intellect of the character who analyzes all situations and confrontations based on such knowledge and then acts without remorse to help anyone who needs him. From beginning to end, the Jack Reacher series entertains and uplifts.
Fiction with a 2 rating- Read Only if You Have no Other Reading Material of Any Kind
• A Change in Altitude by Anita Shreve as noted by Marty J.
• Hell’s Corner by David Baldacci. Peggy says, “I was disappointed in this most recent book featuring John Carr, known as Oliver Stone to his small circle of friends, and the Camel Club. I love to read Baldacci, and I usually enjoy the Camel Club series, but this was too superficial.”
• Port Mortuary by Patricia Cornwall. Peggy observes, “I’ve been a fan of Cornwall’s Scarpetta in the past and was disappointed by the lack of depth, both in characterization and plot, in this offering."
It is amazing that only two novels, Sarah’s Key and Worth Dying For were listed by multiple contributors. Issuing a call for reading suggestions has really illustrated the wide range of reading enjoyed by all of us.
If you’d like to submit suggestions but haven’t done so yet-or if you have more to recommend-please send them in for posting.
Remember that many of our contributors have already reviewed books for the blog:Thanks to Joan H., Linda S.,and Cheryl A. for several of the contributions below. Readers can find these reviews in the blog search box or by blog archivedate as listed. on the right side of the home page.
The Outliers-07/28/09-nonfiction
The Guernsey Literary and Poato Peel Pie Society 07/17/09-epistolary novel
Still Alice 7/17/09-nonfiction
Fearless Fourteen-06/27/09-fiction
Testimony-08/16/09-fiction
The Lost Symbol-10/04/09-fiction
The Red Tent-10/25/09
The Art of Racing in the Rain-05/23/10-fiction
Fiction Works(3) of John Hart-04/07/11
The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo-05/28/10-fiction
The Second Opinion-03/09/10-fiction
Tonight in the Rivers of Pittsburgh 04/08/11-nonfiction
Woods on Fire-04/08/11-nonfiction
Zelienople Road-04/08/11-nonfiction
The Help-01/05/10-fiction
What the Dog Saw-07/10/10-nonfiction
Thanks to all of you who contributed your suggestions. With a list like this, we’ll always have books to read next. And we'll have a literary roadmap when we want to move out of our own comfort zone into works by authors we have yet to experience.
Friday, June 17, 2011
The Power of Women: Raising Big Funds in a Small Community
The Power of Women: Raising Big Funds in a Small Community
When the rest of us were huddled with our coffee cups and waiting for the fabled February thaw to begin, five creative women were drawing up plans for a summer event that would raise much-needed funds for the local Lakeside Association and our community’s volunteer fire company. The result? The June 5 Lakeside Association’s Lakeside Home Walking and Taste of Edinboro.
Debbie, Diana Julie, Kate, and Nicole convinced homeowners to open their residences for the tour. They encouraged local businesses to set up tasting events in each of the homes and convinced local artists-including our own Claudia- to participate in a project to paint 10 Adirondack chairs for auction. They gathered items for a Chinese auction and celebrated when the local florist’s shop Le Jardin offered to decorate each home with beautiful floral displays. Entry was set at $10 for participants buying tickets before June 5, and $12.50 on that Sunday.
Why pick June 5 as the date? The traditional Edinboro Triathlon was set for June 4 this year, and the group connected with the race committee to share costs for tents and portapotties.
Over 600 people took part in the event, enjoying the beautiful homes, the great food, and the chance to see and talk to people they may not have seen in years. Over $10,000 was raised in one day.
What was the best part? The great weather? No, although it was a beautiful day. The money raised? No, although it was an amazing financial boon for both organizations. One of the dynamic planners, Julie, said, “Cooperation was the best part.”
It was an unanticipated gift for the five women to realize that so many people were willing to help out to make the Lakeside Home Walking and Taste of Edinboro a great success. Want to see the extensive list of people who helped? See the Edinboro News, June 16, Page 5 full-page "Thank you" from the Fab. Five. And our own blog contributors were-of course-on the list: Tom and Claudia, Marty and Gary, Kip and Cheryl, Linda and Mark
To those 5 super-organized and civic-minded women who, in the dead of winter, dreamed up a plan that would benefit the whole community this summer, thank you from all of us.
And to Julie for offering information on the event for the blog and for correcting those mistakes in the writer's text! Thank you for both.
When the rest of us were huddled with our coffee cups and waiting for the fabled February thaw to begin, five creative women were drawing up plans for a summer event that would raise much-needed funds for the local Lakeside Association and our community’s volunteer fire company. The result? The June 5 Lakeside Association’s Lakeside Home Walking and Taste of Edinboro.
Debbie, Diana Julie, Kate, and Nicole convinced homeowners to open their residences for the tour. They encouraged local businesses to set up tasting events in each of the homes and convinced local artists-including our own Claudia- to participate in a project to paint 10 Adirondack chairs for auction. They gathered items for a Chinese auction and celebrated when the local florist’s shop Le Jardin offered to decorate each home with beautiful floral displays. Entry was set at $10 for participants buying tickets before June 5, and $12.50 on that Sunday.
Why pick June 5 as the date? The traditional Edinboro Triathlon was set for June 4 this year, and the group connected with the race committee to share costs for tents and portapotties.
Over 600 people took part in the event, enjoying the beautiful homes, the great food, and the chance to see and talk to people they may not have seen in years. Over $10,000 was raised in one day.
What was the best part? The great weather? No, although it was a beautiful day. The money raised? No, although it was an amazing financial boon for both organizations. One of the dynamic planners, Julie, said, “Cooperation was the best part.”
It was an unanticipated gift for the five women to realize that so many people were willing to help out to make the Lakeside Home Walking and Taste of Edinboro a great success. Want to see the extensive list of people who helped? See the Edinboro News, June 16, Page 5 full-page "Thank you" from the Fab. Five. And our own blog contributors were-of course-on the list: Tom and Claudia, Marty and Gary, Kip and Cheryl, Linda and Mark
To those 5 super-organized and civic-minded women who, in the dead of winter, dreamed up a plan that would benefit the whole community this summer, thank you from all of us.
And to Julie for offering information on the event for the blog and for correcting those mistakes in the writer's text! Thank you for both.
Thursday, June 16, 2011
Special Advice for Our Growing Children and Grandchildren, Girls and Boys Both
Just when we think we've done an OK job raising our own children, some much smarter woman comes along and tells us what we can do to help children evaluate relationships. In this case, that woman is Annie Fox, educator and online advisor. Although she focuses on girls, her advice is useful for boys as well.
She insists that girls are especially "ill-equipped to deal with the social land mines that seem to appear at ever younger ages"(In "Give Kids Friendly Advice," Alicia Sultan, McClatchy Newspapers).
How about that bus ride as you watched your friends make nasty remarks about the girl seated in front of you, seeing her tearing up and you not speaking up for fear of being singled out yourself. What could you have done or said?
How about high school when you arrived as a freshman with middle school friends only to find you were no longer invited to parties because you didn't drink? Lots of tears and pain, especially for girls, but for boys as well.
Those of us who have spent a lifetime in teaching might add that boys cover their hurt feelings as well, and they are hurt by childhood and adolescent cruelties, too.
Fox recommends that parents teach children early-as early as age 4-to tell people when they've been hurt.
While acknowledging how hard it is to speak up, parents need to encourage children-girls and boys alike to say "I didn't appreciate what you said. It hurt my feelings." Sounds simple, right? And learning to do so helps to build a child's confidence. It helps to bring into focus what each child expects from a good friend while she/he learns to recognize the behavior of those who are not.
Some of us who thought we did an OK job of raising our own children read Fox's simple advice and realize what we should have done. Our own sons and daughters might have had an easier time navigating the pain of childhood relationships had we taught them to just say, "I didn't appreciate what you said. It hurt my feelings."
Hopefully our own children will do a better job in preparing their children to deflect the slings and arrows that seem to be prevalent in childhood relationships. Then our granddaughters and grandsons will be stronger, better able to cope with the 'social land mines' that Fox describes, and more capable of recognizing true friends while letting go of those who aren't. We'll be sending them off to school exuding confidence, knowing they can handle social situations, even those awful 'land mines'.
Fox talks to girls about their friends: the real ones and those who really aren't. She helps them to see ways to recognize which relationships are good ones and worth keeping versus those that negatively impact them.
She insists that girls are especially "ill-equipped to deal with the social land mines that seem to appear at ever younger ages"(In "Give Kids Friendly Advice," Alicia Sultan, McClatchy Newspapers).
Have we forgotten the hard times we had in school? Many of us acknowledge that the school experience can be a truly painful experience. Do you remember the pain of going to elementary school, maybe in the 3rd. grade when one day you were a member of the playground group and the next day you were crying because they excluded you?
How about that bus ride as you watched your friends make nasty remarks about the girl seated in front of you, seeing her tearing up and you not speaking up for fear of being singled out yourself. What could you have done or said?
How about high school when you arrived as a freshman with middle school friends only to find you were no longer invited to parties because you didn't drink? Lots of tears and pain, especially for girls, but for boys as well.Fox emphasizes that girls tend to brush aside their own hurt feelings and belittle their emotions. They don't want to confront a friend or lose status among their peer group.
Those of us who have spent a lifetime in teaching might add that boys cover their hurt feelings as well, and they are hurt by childhood and adolescent cruelties, too.
Fox recommends that parents teach children early-as early as age 4-to tell people when they've been hurt.
While acknowledging how hard it is to speak up, parents need to encourage children-girls and boys alike to say "I didn't appreciate what you said. It hurt my feelings." Sounds simple, right? And learning to do so helps to build a child's confidence. It helps to bring into focus what each child expects from a good friend while she/he learns to recognize the behavior of those who are not.
Some of us who thought we did an OK job of raising our own children read Fox's simple advice and realize what we should have done. Our own sons and daughters might have had an easier time navigating the pain of childhood relationships had we taught them to just say, "I didn't appreciate what you said. It hurt my feelings."
Hopefully our own children will do a better job in preparing their children to deflect the slings and arrows that seem to be prevalent in childhood relationships. Then our granddaughters and grandsons will be stronger, better able to cope with the 'social land mines' that Fox describes, and more capable of recognizing true friends while letting go of those who aren't. We'll be sending them off to school exuding confidence, knowing they can handle social situations, even those awful 'land mines'.
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